Do I make a list of surface level personality traits I possess? My specific likes and dislikes? Habits and pet-peeves?
I like lattes, chai teas, and ice coffees from Starbucks, but mochas and hot coffee from Peet's. The previews are my favorite part of going to the movies and I enjoy the perfectly crafted combination of popcorn and a blue ice-e while watching. People always remind me to turn off my phone before the movie starts, like they all know I'm that type of person...
I don't like ihop, Denny's or any other chain breakfast restaurant. I can't stand it when people chew and/or breathe loudly. Or when people moan when they eat. We get it- it's good! You don't have to make love to your food, ok? I don't like eating the same thing twice in a day (if I have toast for breakfast, I won't have a sandwich for lunch..).
*Side note: I've talked mostly about food so far... what does this say about me?! ;)
Sometimes I have giggling attacks over things that aren't actually funny. I like the beach but I'm scared of the ocean. I'm a trashy TV addict and I don't even care if you judge me for it. I eat healthy (food talk again, maybe I'm hungry....?) but should exercise more. Big houses scare me... and the list goes on...
Do these unique (and maybe weird?) combinations of preferences and opinions make me who I am? Should I extend my list to know myself better?
Or should I dig deeper?
Do I acknowledge that I don't take criticism well? And that instead of having an infectious laugh, my bad moods are contagious? Do I analyze why I'm only "easy going" when things are going my way? Should I try to find the reasons why I'm highly emotional, easily frustrated, and sometimes overly sensitive?
And after I've created long lists of different aspects of myself, do I accept the potentially annoying personality traits as part of me? Or realize they may make me a difficult, sometimes intense, hard-to-get-along-with human being and try to change them?
What steps do I take to do the appropriate soul searching in order to become a happier person, while still embracing, accepting, but maybe altering, a few qualities?
Do I acknowledge that I don't take criticism well? And that instead of having an infectious laugh, my bad moods are contagious? Do I analyze why I'm only "easy going" when things are going my way? Should I try to find the reasons why I'm highly emotional, easily frustrated, and sometimes overly sensitive?
And after I've created long lists of different aspects of myself, do I accept the potentially annoying personality traits as part of me? Or realize they may make me a difficult, sometimes intense, hard-to-get-along-with human being and try to change them?
What steps do I take to do the appropriate soul searching in order to become a happier person, while still embracing, accepting, but maybe altering, a few qualities?
Stay tuned.. -a.
I like the questions that you ask yourself in this post. I think it's hard to really know what it is that you need to do to make yourself a better person. However, the journey is worth it as you understand yourself more and find people that can and will help you understand yourself.
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